Why We’re Losing Traditional Marriage

The relevant question in the gay marriage debate largely goes unanswered:  “How does gay marriage harm traditional marriage and children?”

It is frustrating to see so many pro-family advocates and the attorneys representing them in court completely drop the ball when the answer is relatively simple.

There are only two reasons to marry:  1) to make a vow before God and have the union recognized by the church.  2) to have the union recognized by the government.

Since all major religions condemn homosexuality in the strongest terms, reason # 1 is an attempt to “feel good” at best.

So, why does a couple seek to have their union recognized by the government?  Conversely, why do so many heterosexual couples no longer bother?

It can be summed up in one word, “benefits.”   There is an axiom in government: The more you reward something the more you get of it.  The more you tax something, the less you get of it;

The government has long recognized that it costs money to raise good productive citizens.  When the income tax was first established in 1913, it sought to put a “hedge of protection” around the traditional family to shield it from this burden.  The personal exemption was established to do just that.

However, if everyone is allow inside the hedge, the hedge — for all practical purposes — no longer exists.

Unfortunately, this personal exemption was not indexed for inflation so the hedge has all but disappeared.  While, there are some benefits to marriage, most can be achieved by other legal means and the ones that still exists don’t really amount to much.

Presently, the laws on marriage are a confused mess.  There are now over 1100 tax benefits, rights and, yes, burdens (known as the marriage penalty) linked to marriage.  In 2004, the nonpartisan Congressional Budget Office estimated that if gay marriage were recognized, it would bring in another $1 billion a year over ten years.

So why are so many gay couples trying to get into it?  The perceived benefit is acceptance.

And why do so many heterosexual couples avoid marriage entirely?  Benefits.

A  young, single mother is most likely eligible for free medical care, free housing, free food under the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program SNAP, more free food under Women’s Infants and Children WIC, free childcare and free educational benefits.  Her partner also may be eligible for some of these benefits.  However, if they marry, most of these benefits go away.

This not only lessens the chance that children conceived outside of marriage will grow up in a stable home, it creates dependency and adds to our burdensome national debt

Our whole system has been turned upside down and children are the biggest losers!

Children raised in in-tact marriages do better in school, are less likely to do drugs, go to jail, have out-of-wedlock births and thus be a drain on society.

So what about the children living in homosexual households?  Despite all the rhetoric, they are few in number.  However, most of these children were acquired by one or both partners who were in former heterosexual marriages or relationships.

To be sure, some homosexual couples adopt or conceived through artificial insemination.  Although these children are brought into these homes as a result of careful planning, they are also likely to suffer negative outcomes.

A  study by sociologist Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas at Austin, published in Social Science Research, is the most exhaustive study to date on this subject.  It completely overturned the conventional wisdom that there is no measurable difference between children growing up in in-tact households with a mother and a father and those raised in homosexual households.

Unlike previous narrow studies that focused on minor children who are still under the influence of their parents, the Regnerus study was done with adults.  His study found that those adults who have a parent who is or has been in a same-sex relationship are subject to the same unfortunate outcomes as those raised in single family homes, but also are

  • 10 times more likely to have been “touched sexually by a parent or adult caregiver.
  • 4 times as likely to have been “physically forced” to have sex against their will.
  • Are more likely to have “attachment” problems.
  • 4 times more likely to identify as something other than entirely heterosexual.

These things are much too important to be ignored in deference to political correctness!

The real question is this:  Has traditional marriage outlived its usefulness?  If the answer is “no,”  then take away the disincentives that keep heterosexuals from marrying and rebuild that hedge!



4 thoughts on “Why We’re Losing Traditional Marriage

  1. Benefits for most people demanding same sex marriage is a smoke screen….which they may even not realize.

    From what I can see and understand about what the big uproar over this issue is simply to “win” the fight over straight people. And, an awful lot of straight people simply want to also “win” the fight over gays.

    You see the same “my team beat your team” mentality applied in every activity and issue that comes along. Fueled by political leadership.

    americans have become a nation of very childish and immature people.

    And, it will only get worse with more and more of the younger Solo Cup Degree generation.

    Seeking validation from government is seeking a false validation.


  2. The war on marriage and the family began long before the pervert agenda became obvious. Back in the nineteen fifties promiscuity began to be preached by such creatures as Kinsey and Hefner, and the “right” to abortion began to be discussed. Then along came radical feminism, birth control, an expansion of welfare benefits, and “no fault” divorce.
    Why should women get married when they are encouraged to become lesbians, and to become corporate CEOs or paratroopers? Why marry the father of your child when you can get welfare? Why stay married when you can divorce your husband, almost always get custody of the children, and get child and spousal support?
    And why should men marry when, if they have not been converted into homosexuals by the “schools,” sex with promiscuous women is readily available? Why marry when they know that most divorces are initiated by the women, usually against faithful and loving husbands? Why marry when your ex wife will turn your beloved children against you, deny visitation, and make you pay for the privilege?
    And why have children at all when your income after confiscatory taxation makes them unaffordable?


  3. Good subject to comment on this week. The homosexual community is pulling out all the stops on making their perverted “lifestyle” acceptible to everyone. No one has been preventing them from indulging in their ugly behavior and some form of Civil Union, but definitely NOT marriage, would solve their financial (and hospital visitation) requests if they would pursue that avenue rather than disrupting the definition of marriage. Marriage between one man and one woman has been the civilized way of having and protecting families for hundreds of generations. Shame on that community of civilization enemies.


  4. Submitted on 2013/04/05 at 2:30 am
    On Wed, Apr 3, 2013 at 7:44 PM, MOE KOVACH wrote:

    Your commentary on marriage is very right on you should also add that marriage is one of the most regulated of Human social institutions as it is a pillar and cornerstone for stability in society. When you move the boundaries or markers and let every one or thing it it erodes a nation from within and that civilization eventually collapses. Social liberal agenda destroyed the Black American family by removing the Male father figure and now we have lost more then a generation of the Black family. Instead of a unique and cherished institution we have made it a commodity to bought and sold. I hold that marriage is an bringing together of a man and a woman being into a new living being. Thank You for your commentary. I have one question of you were You the lady who did those sports vignettes on tv long ago?


    Moses F Kovach


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